That Eye-opening Moment…entrance to the present being (Part 1)

Now introducing a series of events, with no limit and no fixed continuation but with some eye-opening truths of life, so here I bring the 1^st one:

Things are just not the same all the time. Maybe you won’t expect much on your behalf but the thing is that there are certain glimpses of yours’ which aren’t explored by you, experienced or realized by you but it’s surprisingly the ones near you who may catch these things.

It is so astonishing and touching to know that there stands someone behind who actually needs no explanation of yours’ to let them know what’s going inside your head. Whoa!! One thing I’m damn sure about is that none of us have the ability to play the hide & seek of thoughts with some hard to find ‘detectives’ which we actually look for throughout the span of life. Means seriously these fellows don’t even need to get deep inside, but what I know is that they have the guts to live for others & their selves. It might be so that you’re good at hiding what you actually feel or feel shy of sharing, just because you only find it comfortable to keep it up to you as you think they’ll make fun of it or you find yourself somewhere more ‘complex’ then others, but these ‘detectives’ don’t care, moreover they make you realize what wrong perception you had till now. But surely all things relies upon your selection first, and in my case still I don’t open much (seriously complex I’m, maybe out of the world :-P).

Maybe your face doesn’t speak what you’re about to say, maybe it plays a disguise for you or most probably you’re the best diplomat but all goes in vain when your mind isn’t able to fool the heart of others, you fail then & there. Everyone who is as dumb as me (sarcastically) should have such people around, at least to make us feel what we are leaving behind in haste to hide to what we actually think. Maybe I’ll remain the same, but you won’t do so that’s what I expect, I’m too lazy to do so and nor do I feel any requirement, after all I’ve got some ‘idiots’ who really understand this (blessed) and you too, go on & search for these ‘detectives’, because without them your existence isn’t worth it. So, bring it on…!!!

Don't expect...just firmly believe

The title might seem to you as boring, but wait for a while. It might change your perception. Everything happens for a purpose but understanding its worth is what depends upon you.

Recently, we were busy with our exams, loads of pressure upon our shoulders and by any means we managed to invest a large stock of time towards studies for a better return, and why not because after all it's the extreme time when once in a blue moon we put a close look towards our books, at least for the sake of exams. Now just go back in time and think about it, what we actually thought before getting ready for this mind boggling task? The answer is simple, but complex to understand. Some of us will think that it was our high expectations which made us do so but its not. Actually, your 'believe' of getting beneficial returns out of it was your main motive, getting good grades being the aim. Even i can be questioned that who am i to decide what others think or feel? Again the answer is with me, as i love being questioned. It's all about recognising your inner 'you'. Somewhat the answer is within you, but even understanding yourself is another challenging task. So getting back to the topic now, lets explore some other side of it.

It won't be an exaggeration if i even say that your likings/dislikings and followings also affect the strength of firm believe. For instance, we all connect to each other on Facebook, no doubt in it. Actually what my perception about all of us being there is that Facebook itself is the output of believe that we may like to share our thoughts, likings, etc. over that space. We even 'expect' that people like us will be there and try out different approaches to get in contact with them but it's also an undeniable fact that expectation leads to disappointments at times. Some of us would eagerly wait for replies and reactions upon posts, messages, comments and excite ourselves for it which is a natural human behaviour towards such situations, again “expectations”. But if it doesn't happen, then it pinches you deeply somewhere that you question yourself. Seriously, it happens and I'm not talking of all but just in general. So even at this social platform, believes play a pivotal role in keeping an erect mindset.

No one knows what's gonna happen next, nor youngsters care about  it...free-living generation we are. So why to be serious then or smash our head for it? But just gear up and believe that what you do satisfies you, is better for you and forget about what others expect, again I say that expectation leads to dissatisfaction/disappointment. Maybe I'm new to this space  here but I'll make a space for myself, adjust with others and that's what i believe and so we all do have some glimpses of such believes in our instinct, which needs to be handled practically. So, keep believing.....

Why Are We So Afraid?

By using the word ‘afraid’, there’s no intention of recalling some old ghost folklores or talking of incidences which shook your instinct. At times, you may not be so as if you are now, you might be in a distress, dilemma that all of a sudden you turn so ‘cold’ just like some stone figure & think of ways so that you get away from the consciousness of others. 

I too ponder at times that even if we say that where ever you count upon, a friend is to be at your side, so whom are we afraid of? Sometimes I do notice myself that even after being right on my part, doing nothing ‘fishy’, still then the ‘culprit in disguise’ rises within myself & makes me feel like ‘What sin I have committed? Let this task be kept away from the notice of all’. Maybe you have gone through the same guilt & might have lost faith upon yourself, just because you don’t want others to judge you as ‘wrong’.

It should be like ‘C’mon, give up that ‘unknown’ guilt & come up’ but instead we think whether it’s worth to be so open or whether I’m getting against those ‘stereotypic’ value that have been set up. Now rather I would regard myself as a ‘dumb’ that I’m not even open to my parents. But what to do? My reasoning says that I don’t want to put myself into ‘emotional dilemma’ afterwards & so think that a gap among views & thoughts should remain as an obstacle, at least making me more bold than I’m ought to be & here starts a series of uncertain mismatches within you.

Maybe I’m wrong, that’s what human nature is all about which still goes on continuing to fight a battle of pros & cons, but all you need to do is give up that ‘unknown’ filth & give yourself a chance to make a success come alive, maybe not in true sense, but about your satisfaction.

Finding yourself

You know who you are....your peers know you are and your parents & rels know who you are. OMG! Lot of identities, hard to handle & you remain unidentified. So actually who are you? What are you doing here? Is it a just situation where you're in?

Something i just realised in the days gone by that the way you involve among the peers is acting as a manipulative trait to form a projection of yours for your dear ones. On the opposite side, the way you just intend to remain an entirely family-oriented guy or gal is the another situation which sets a different image of yours among your social circle. What your parents think of you as compared to what your friends think has just the same effect on you, i.e. A dilemma to favour whom? For parents, you should be among the best of all and to be so it is said on their behalf that avoid being so social, mixing among friends and rest all justifications. Where on other hand you are incomplete without those special 'mates' around you, which maybe a support hand, a joyous company to you & it's rather imperative to accept a circle they create, which isn't possible always by remaining a so-called 'homely' person. So there comes a point when giving attention to both the sides becomes important, where parents may think of that 'something fishy' factor out of it that what's so unique is going on among them that they feel to give no importance to their dear ones, i won't elaborate about the 'doubtful' sequence here, that you all might have understood. But even if no such intention is put behind it, then even, at times we are kept under an eye of suspicion, a hawks' eye. Now with friends you are a person of a so-called dude personality, who just forgets everything when being into the friend circle, that 'groovy', 'feel free' attitude of ours can't be hidden. But in case of parents, you become the most eligible one to be awarded for being in etiquette, a simple-sober guy or gal who is a cultured, family-centered one & so on.

Then at school you become somewhat a curious, generous soul, obedient & helpful soul, sometimes crazy even, who is ready to absorb everything being taught & most importantly a person who thrives to become a 'favourite' of the teacher, a person to be talked about everywhere around school campus, that's what a student thinks, right? But after working out so much to make a personality of ours, do we come up to a conclusion of where to put an end to it, or do we still need to carry this chore long ahead? Humans are a mighty soul, who will work till they get satisfaction that too being unknown to the fact. Maybe it gives us a satisfaction now but can we stick upon any one of them? Quite a tough task, because it's the 'dual nature' we are fond of. We ourself create a need to play a different character each time, maybe because of the fact that we don't consider ourself a perfect one & in a haste we create a bound for ourselves which after sometime we can't even break. By ending this mind-boggling task of mine & wasting some more time of yours', maybe we continue to be the same as mentioned above, but mark this fact that be true to your own self, don't let this task create a situation of guilt for you, as it's your own soul who needs to get satisfied by every action, because 'every action has an equal and opposite reaction'.

Why to think what others ‘think’? (Continued)

But just think why it’s a ‘NO’? I’m no one to judge but truth is truth. It’s a daily routine of ours’ to wake up with ‘ease’; dress up with ‘formality’; move out with an ‘attitude’ & come back with a hectic load of ‘unreal you’. Words seem to be so simple but did you notice again? Go back; read those words again & come back, what’s the issue? We can’t remain real to what we are, that’s what we conclude & an answer to that ‘NO’. But the things remain the same that ‘can we remain what we are?’

I’ll try to sum up in a short. We ‘social birds’ explore ‘several branches’ & try to have a taste of every ‘fruit’ available, after all so attractive it seems, but the ‘sweetness’ of those fruits unknowingly takes us away from our real being, also that ‘sweetness’ is the culprit in adding a pinch of ‘sourness’ to us & I’m pretty strong upon my point. 

Everything revolves around ‘exploring the exotic’ & this leads us to an imbalance b/w who we are and what we aren't. Choices differ, opinions differ & again it comes to put a break to my words. Ending up with some common words that it’s tough to be you literally, our involvement around makes us grab some traits which seems artificial. We keep on adopting and adapting to those surroundings, unknown to the fact that we have to return back at some point of time & then the fear raises that ‘How do I confront this unknown puzzle, a dual personality created by me?’ Even I know it’s a compulsion for us to do so and then get into a dilemma even after knowing the fact, as frankly speaking, I too have gone through this and maybe still I’m into it along with many others, you never know. So that’s all for now, stay tuned for more…!!!!

Send in your queries/comments/suggestions, after all different minds set up unique ‘mindset’………..

Why to think what others ‘think’?

People do say that sometimes it’s like I write down philosophies, stretching upon the lengths & widths of the topic, quite silly what’s harm in spreading your views, right? 

Believe me, this is a ‘realistic question’ with which everyone of us could relate that why to care about what others would think? Does it pose something very deep to us? 

What we really do when someone is about to confront us? Very first reaction is that ‘Am I looking good?’, ‘Do I need to have a better dress up?’, ‘A hair-do?’ or most common one that ‘what to talk so sensible or will I seem to be a fool in front of him/her?’ We lose our faith for a while! Surprisingly nobody notices this strange attitude. A simple reason what I think is the ‘dual personality trait’ among ourselves as we are fond of forming an ‘image’, which maybe ‘virtual’ at times but done just to prove that we are no less than the one we are confronting, at times a matter of ego too & I bet we all go through this @ some point of time.

For instance, we are with our family on an outing & suddenly spot an acquaintance or a friend of ours. What’s your reaction? At first glance we may try to ignore them, because there we are actually the one we are & in a hustle we can’t get into our ‘virtual’ character which we pose in front of them. So, we better choose to ignore, else we fear if he/she would think wrong of me.

Come on, I just don’t write philosophies, I too write something sensible at times. So have you realized something? That it was something too realistic. Very interesting part which lies here is that ‘we are fond of forming an image’, an attitude we create. Why? Can’t we live without it a minute? NOT AT ALL. Do comment over this as your opinion is valuable.

But just think why it’s a ‘NO’?

TO BE CONTINUED……….