The moments I never ever thought of......

In my last blog I mentioned about the reason why I was there in Dehradun. We all felt bad when my grandfather left us with no 'hope'. It was for the first time that I saw all the rituals during a funeral and being a grandson I was also a part of it. I don't want to recall all that because some things you can't share. After all this sequence.....not being diplomatic, first time in my life I felt that one of the important part of my life has gone away. I respected him a lot but always being away from my native place always created a barrier that I wasn't that much attached.

But during these 13 days....lots of sequences took place, some were good and some were bad. But the most awaited thing was that my whole family was there for the same. So it's obvious that we had fun too. There I got a chance to know about my ancestors that where they belonged to; what all they did and many more, which is not normally possible. We all learned to co-operate with such atmosphere and recalled about our as well as their childhood. Overall I must say that here we all gained knowledge where not just by knowing about my family but also the brighter and darker side of the people which we get to know when we actually need them.

Here I also got a chance to have a look over our long old rituals which till now we follow. My grandpa's elder brother too confessed that we even follow rituals about which we don't have any knowledge and just continuing over with it. Quite strange but what can I do in that stage but seriously I think that we are bounded by such rituals and superstitions which will never let us upgrade our thinking. To come up from such stage....we should be judgmental that whether these superstitions are limiting us or not and if yes then try to prevent it.

Now it was the time to leave....the time where we managed to live in such conditions but made it suitable for us to live. Here we were also in hurry that our studies should not suffer but seriously this sequence taught me the importance of a family as I've never been in such conditions before which also made it much harder for me to escape it. We all got to know about each other's views....way of thinking, living and also its fun being together. When we get out of an atmosphere full of hustle-bustle, you'll try to find the same thing again when you get back and frankly speaking here I'm also going through the same stage. And really I would like to have such gathering again but this time for better cause. I'll be missing all my relatives I met and thanks to them for making me aware about good and bad happenings which can take place and can always have possibilities.

Overall this time period can referred as a ‘Bucket’ full of knowledge which all of us should have in our life because some things can’t be taught, just experiencing it can help you. Self-dependency and knowing the family values can make a person grow higher in life. Though this, I got to know about rituals our family is following from a long time, superstitions which needs to be removed which I along with my cousins and others found useless. And also try to know your family because one more problem I faced was that I was unable to recognize the members who belonged to my family. At last, I’m now back to my home, busy in my chores but still happy to remember those moments and trying to relive them again.

Making a mountain out of a mole hill.....

See we guys have developed a lot of interest in things going all around whether it is a verbal war between friends or just be a silly episode full of fussy things. But mind that such type of 'silly' episode can transform into a sudden clash between that members.  For one such incident, I was the spectator and I'm sure you'll really learn something from it but not violence actually.

In Dehradun, I was there for 13 days according to the rituals as recently my grandfather died due to pneumonia in lungs.....which either was shocking. It was the time to distribute invitations for the final prayers regarding the peace of his soul. So I went to one of my friend's home nearby for the same but even after requesting him he told me not to leave now and have a meet with all my relatives. Then for sake of his mind I agreed and started off with a course of conversation with them. And suddenly a small incident took place.

One of his aunts reached there, a horrible personality actually and was the eldest of my uncle's family. There without bothering about anything she ran towards kitchen as she was extremely hungry which showed her least bothering side  But there my friend's mother asked her whether she ate anything there or not without knowing that she was hungry as it was almost 4 pm. And huh!!!!! This turned to be the starting of a Great Verbal War where her aunt misunderstood the sentiment and started criticizing her family and her way of hospitality. There she was stopped by uncle and she went inside. Still a part is left. That angry aunt went inside and threw some her wet clothes on her sister-in-law to just keep it in sun for drying which was sort of humiliation where again a great fuss took place but it was very much embarrassing for my friend who was eager for an introduction with all of them.

You'll find this incident little bit weird but if you try to get into the depth of it you'll find that there was a difference in opinions and expectations where her aunt was wanting that she should be treated well as she was elder but both her deeds were totally wrong that she should understand that it's very much difficult to manage whole family where guests are also present and there in front of all she was treating them like anything. Also they both were not denying doing that certain work. Then being elder she should have some patience and think about her guest as she herself was a guest there.

Later being a part of discussion over solving this issue....I found that if you're dissatisfied with someone's behavior, try to have some distance which will not really affect that person's mind because we all have certain expectation as she wanted all things to be done according to her. These all are a part of family issues which gives us a sense of tackling the condition but it doesn't means that totally stop conversation so for that we can have some gatherings to create a neutral atmosphere.

So to prove the relevance of title.....here you may have got an idea of today's normal family where such sort of disputes is almost common. It depends on us whether what sort of impression we are creating over other members.

Killing the desires of our young generations.....only grades matters??

Today...we can consider this period as the "Terrorized Rule 0f Grades" where even capabilities are not being taken into consideration. Now anyone listening to this sentiment will surely try to deny it but believe me, without grades even god can't help you. Will this race lead a better tomorrow?? It can but after a long and long chase of grades through a great war between the young mighty minds. But I think not really......

Everywhere grades have specifically became an important aspect of life. Other than talking about sports, fashion, games....they go through a great discussion over the grades they got but here it seems to be quite weird that no one talks about what they gained from it. You may even find students afraid not for their performance but for the marks, sometimes even me. I also think that somewhere humiliation of students takes place in class as well, this rank and grades are responsible. It's correct that teachers have courtesy for them but especially pointing out someone can even create a wrong impression.

So in today's time....it becomes more important to flourish your abilities just because of increasing competition. These marks just reflect what you prepared...what you thought but not your views. A platform is always the need of the hour that is created but is insufficient due to lack of seats. What I'm trying to say is that Medical, Engineering are not the only fields left....try to extend the scope you have but the main thing is just do your best and never mind what marks you get because somewhere your abilities can become your future, it can be quite beneficial as well so try polish that skills....!!!!!! :-)

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Mid-day meal.....the worst way a child can be served ???

The headlines for everyday news are "children being admitted in hospital...due to 'mid-day meal' " or "insects found in 'mid-day meal' ". It was started just to attract villagers to send their wards to school but today the condition is that they think ten times before sending them or be afraid of that will they be meeting their children in proper health. It just shrieks the instinct like hell.

Recently in Chapra district of Bihar, 23 children died and more than 40 admitted in critical condition when they had a meal in which a large amount of chemical fertilizers were found. Before moving forward towards other criticism. Let’s know what is mid-day meal. This programme was first started in Tamil Nadu to attract students towards schools and to serve them with some nutritious food that further came under National Rural Health Mission. Because of its success, it extended its boundaries to rest of India.

But afterwards a sudden carelessness was noticed in taking care of the grains, vegetables. Even adulterated items were then used in preparation just to decrease the cost of preparing food that has an adverse effect on children. A perfect example which shows the carelessness of authorities or NGOs which took place recently in Uttar Pradesh where a died frog was found in the vegetable to be served to children which was fortunately pointed out children. Another example we take is of Kishangarh, Rajasthan where houseflies and other insects were found in the meal. But in becomes a bit controversial as the food was served by a NGO that is run by Esher Judge Ahluwalia, wife of Montek Singh Ahluwalia (Vice-Chairman of Planning Commission).  

What thinking it creates is that providing food to children is just a 'joke' for them. What all arrangements these ministers make when they plan for a party or gathering.....best of the hotels, caterers with a large variety of cuisine made available to them but what these children want is just a meal to fulfill their body needs, but unfortunately passive citizens will always remain the same. Now if they want to add the corrupt aspects in it...so what can be done? So shall our country move over or put a stop to Mid-day meal???