See we guys have developed a lot of interest in things going
all around whether it is a verbal war between friends or just be a silly
episode full of fussy things. But mind that such type of 'silly' episode can
transform into a sudden clash between that members. For one such incident, I was the spectator
and I'm sure you'll really learn something from it but not violence actually.
In Dehradun, I was there for 13 days according to the
rituals as recently my grandfather died due to pneumonia in lungs.....which either
was shocking. It was the time to distribute invitations for the final prayers
regarding the peace of his soul. So I went to one of my friend's home nearby
for the same but even after requesting him he told me not to leave now and have
a meet with all my relatives. Then for sake of his mind I agreed and started
off with a course of conversation with them. And suddenly a small incident took
place.
One of his aunts reached there, a horrible personality
actually and was the eldest of my uncle's family. There without bothering about
anything she ran towards kitchen as she was extremely hungry which showed her
least bothering side But there my
friend's mother asked her whether she ate anything there or not without knowing
that she was hungry as it was almost 4 pm. And huh!!!!! This turned to be the
starting of a Great Verbal War where her aunt misunderstood the sentiment and
started criticizing her family and her way of hospitality. There she was
stopped by uncle and she went inside. Still a part is left. That angry aunt
went inside and threw some her wet clothes on her sister-in-law to just keep it
in sun for drying which was sort of humiliation where again a great fuss took
place but it was very much embarrassing for my friend who was eager for an
introduction with all of them.
You'll find this incident little bit weird but if you try to
get into the depth of it you'll find that there was a difference in opinions
and expectations where her aunt was wanting that she should be treated well as
she was elder but both her deeds were totally wrong that she should understand
that it's very much difficult to manage whole family where guests are also
present and there in front of all she was treating them like anything. Also
they both were not denying doing that certain work. Then being elder she should
have some patience and think about her guest as she herself was a guest there.
Later being a part of discussion over solving this
issue....I found that if you're dissatisfied with someone's behavior, try to
have some distance which will not really affect that person's mind because we
all have certain expectation as she wanted all things to be done according to
her. These all are a part of family issues which gives us a sense of tackling
the condition but it doesn't means that totally stop conversation so for that
we can have some gatherings to create a neutral atmosphere.
So to prove the relevance of title.....here you may have got
an idea of today's normal family where such sort of disputes is almost common.
It depends on us whether what sort of impression we are creating over other
members.
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